Unlovable: Managing Disappointment With Troubled Teens

Disappointment results when someone you care about fails to meet your expectations. You feel it because you believe in someone. Just because someone lets you down doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have placed your belief in them in the first place. If you want to manage feelings you have about your troubled teen, you first have to acknowledge that disappointments are inevitable, and that we cannot connect all of our feelings to this disappointment. Your teen must feel the weight of your expectations, but your love should be unconditional. You can start by finding positive feelings to replace your negative ones. Instead of seeing your son or daughter as unlovable, recognize the positive parts of who they are. That may seem impossible to you in their current state, but focusing on the good will help dissolve your negative thoughts. Naturally, changing your feelings is not going to change their behavior although you may be blaming your feelings on their actions. So the real question becomes not how to manage your disappointment, but how to manage your adolescent.

Zion Educational Systems’ Family Advocates understand how a parent’s feelings may be tied into their child’s behavior. When you have a troubled young adult × Young Adult
n. noun Merriam-Webster dictionary provides two definitions of the term young adult: 1. a teenager (used especially by publishers and librarians). 2. a person in the early years of adulthood. The term ' young adult' referrs to a confusing and often times, turbulent and chaotic time in a young man or woman's life. The ages of 17 - 26, are a time of finding oneself in a struggle to carve out a lifestyle of one's choosing. It is no wonder that many young men and women struggle with this time and need outside assistance in order to live a healthy and productive lifestyle. Young adults who are troubled, can find solace from various transitional living programs for troubled young adults. Programs such as residential treatment, Independent living programs and rehabilitation programs, are all viable options for troubled young men and women.
, your family may feel broken. Our Family Advocates are available anytime at 866-471-8579.

Managing Is More Realistic Than Controlling

When you find yourself in an exasperating situation with your son or daughter, it can seem hopeless. As a parent you may want to fix everything and find something that will “work”. Raising your kids, you did have a lot more control as they were more dependent on you. As they grow up and start becoming more independent you may feel like you are losing control. You and your kid need to find ways to work together and become interdependent, thus both of you benefiting from your relationship.
Zion Educational Systems has helped many parents of struggling youth learn to work together and help the participant find ways to get back on track and live up to their potential. There are so many reasons this generation suffers from drug abuse × Drug Abuse
Drug Abuse /drug/ /a.buse/ The definition of Drug abuse is the use of a medicine or other substance that has a physiological effect when introduced into the body improperly in a negative view or purpose. There are many different types of drugs, and the misuse of these types of substances can be very dangerous and can be the cause of many different problems.  This kind of abuse can lead to many different impairments or distress. Along with physical problems that can come from recurrent drug abuse, there are many other types of problems that can occur.  One effect can be a lack of interest in schooling and work.  Another possibility can be the failure to fulfill roles and obligations in different settings of life can.   Also, a poor performance in daily actions that may lead to legal problems. It is important to face Drug abuse as soon as possible in an appropriate manner.  There are many different programs that are available to help fix these types of problems to rehabilitate someone’s life.
, alcohol × Alcohol
al·co·hol n.noun a colorless volatile flammable liquid that is the intoxicating constituent of wine, beer, spirits, and other drinks, and is also used as an industrial solvent and as fuel. When ingested, alcohol can be a deadly intoxicant. Teens and adults alike are more prone to make fateful and negative choices while drinking alcohol. A deadly intoxicant, alcohol has destroyed and ripped apart the lives of millions and yet, remains to be the drug of choice of troubled teens nationwide. Teenage minds are not yet able to fully appreciate the dangers that coincide with drinking. When drunk, teenagers commit and act out heinous activities which they would normally never commit or act out. Teenage pregnancy, driving under the influence, fighting and other consequences are more likely to occur while teens drink. Parents of teenage boys or girls who drink occasionally or struggle with the addiction of alcohol, need to seek immediate treatment for their son or daughter.
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